Selfishness!!!

Selfishness is mankind's fundamental defect. Selfish means: self-centered, self-serving, self-important. At the root of every problem is selfishness. Giving is the opposite of acting selfishly. Divine love is the opposite of selfishness.

No other "religion" teaches to put others first, to love your enemies. Christianity is the only one that teaches you can be totally changed and become a person with a new nature.

We are products of a corrupt culture that teaches selfishness. All sin is selfish. No one ever sins for someone else -- we do it for selfish reasons.

You can't change the fruit without changing the root. That is why you must be born again! Only by receiving Jesus Christ, and letting Him change you, can you be a truly unselfish person.

Pride is self-importance and self-focus -- which leads to selfishness which is selfish thinking and selfish acting -- which is the opposite of Jesus' command of agape love (John 13:34).

Pride and selfishness always go together. A truly humble person cannot be selfish at the same time.

Pride is the root of selfishness -- and thus the root of all evil. Pride is hidden but manifests as selfish acts. Selfishness is the cause of all evil. All evil proceeds from selfish actions. Selfishness is the only manifest problem, but pride feeds it. Dealing with the root cause of the problem is the only lasting solution.

GALATIANS 5:19-21 NKJ
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, licentiousness,
20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies,
21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

PHILIPPIANS 2:3-4 NKJ
3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

It takes faith to put others first. It takes faith to receive, but it takes even more faith to forsake -- because it does not seem to be in our self-interest. (Hebrews 11:27)

ROMANS 12:10 NKJ
10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;

1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-7 NKJ
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

As I read everything I wrote, the words fell off my lips and into my heart. Me as a woman is definitely seeking change. When one person is changing, the ones around them will (for the best). I'm neva a selfish person, but I'm also not perfect. Don't take and take and take and never give. It's like handing someone the world and you throw them a pebble. Have a good day everyone.

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Truth Is........

Please take time to read...This is some good info on a healthy marriage and relationship working towards marriage advice.

Marriage isn't scary, what makes it scary is when things don't work out and your left to deal with the repercussions leaving an individual to not want to marry again. To be in a healthy marriage and to be able to marry, is a definite no given feeling knowing that it was in your destined plan, NOT under certain circumstances which forced a marriage. To be selfish is to be married foolishly not knowing the difference.

So many marriages end in divorce because of sinful pride. This sinful pride often lurks in the carnal attitude one has towards their spouse. So many married people have the attitude that they'll only do their part if their spouse does theirs. That attitude just won't work in the real world...not if you want to stay married. God never intended for a marriage to be a parasitic type of relationship where you only give to get. A marriage is supposed to based upon UNCONDITIONAL LOVE where each person gives 100% regardless of how much effort the spouse puts in. Is that fair? Of course not, but true love isn't based upon fairness. Was it fair that Jesus Christ should paid a debt he did not owe because we owed a debt we could not pay? No, but He did it anyway because He loves us (Romans 5:8). Love oftentimes is not fair.

The Bible clearly teaches that we are no better than the heathen if only give to get. If we only love those who love us, then where is our reward? Jesus said in Matthew 5:46...

Biblical love is unconditional love. A parent who truly loves their child will NEVER disown their child. A husband who truly loves his wife will NEVER divorce her. A wife who truly loves her husband will NEVER divorce him.

People get divorced all the time because they get tired and want out. The green grass they seek is rarely what they thought it would be. You can't run from your miseries. We are living in a selfish generation where people look for excuses to run, shirk, and quit. It's just not right. Marriage is NOT an agreement, it's a lifetime COMMITMENT.

Often, marriage is simply two people putting up with each other for a lifetime. A marriage is like a horse and carriage. Everyone wants to sit up in the carriage, but who wants to clean up after the horses or change one of the carriage wheels? That's right, no one! There are going to be good times AND bad times in ANY marriage. If you've had few problems in your marriage up until now, then you have something to look forward to (because the bad times will come).

Though opposites attract, they usually make lousy marriages. A man who likes a clean house will continually fight with a wife who is a slob (and vise versa). When dating, people often feel more comfortable with people who AREN'T like them. Unfortunately, this often leads to troublesome marriages. Then again, love is blind...you can't decide when and where to fall in love. Life must take it's course. If you are married to someone who is very different from you, then make the best of it. A husband and wife must both COMMIT to treading through the bad times and swearing 100% loyalty to each other. The MOST important thing in any marriage is that you both RESPECT each other. Equally important is that you both COMMUNICATE. A person should always say "excuse me" before interrupting their spouse in a conversation. A husband should never unexpectedly bring home guests. A wife should never hand her husband money in front of people. A husband and wife should never correct each other in the presence of anyone. A successful marriage must be based upon mutual loyalty, respect, communication, and honesty. A husband and wife should be BEST friends. If they're not best friends after several years of marriage, then something is wrong.

A husband and wife should be loyal to each other above every other human institution or organization (this includes church and family). This is my opinion. I don't believe that a wife should ever counsel with her pastor without her husband knowing about it. If your husband is abusive, then leave him quietly and don't drag other people into your marriage. As soon as possible, communicate with him and talk it out. Seek Christian counseling if you need to, but don't allow ANYONE to split your marriage up. Everyone nowadays seems to be a marriage counselor (and they cause many divorces). It's amazing how someone who has only known you for less than an hour has your whole life figured out (and now they're telling you what you should do). Please don't listen to people. Tell your mother/father/sister/brother/friend/co-worker/etc to mind their own business. So many marriages/relationships have been destroyed by meddling people with assumingly good intentions. The Bible teaches that NOTHING should ever come between a husband and his wife...nothing (Matthew 19:6). If the husband and wife are at odds with each other, then leave it be...don't take sides or make things worse.

In fact, it's not a good idea to meddle with other people's problems period. Oh how people love to give unsought advice. Oh how people are idiots that ruin marriages. I'm telling you in this article to cut loose from all the idiots and make a vow in your own marriage to be 100% loyal, committed, faithful, honest, and protective of each other!!!

The very same people that you think are your "friends" during your marriage/relationship problems will be the very ones who abandon you when the smoke clears, the dust settles, and your marriage is in ruins. And who is to say they are just giving their ignorant advice for their own gain or hatred towards your relationship. My point is, if the advice doesn't sound or feel right, then you shouldn't be standing there to hear anymore.

Marriage is NOT 50/50...it is 100/100. If you don't give 100%, then shame on you. If you're fortunate enough to be loved, then your spouse will pick up the slack and be there for you. Certainly, there are times of weakness in all our lives when we need someone to pick us up and even carry us along. Unfortunate is the man or woman who is all alone in life. My heart goes out to you.

Some healthy advice right here. Your household is your home. Respect those that respect you. Take it or leave it and ask yourself, what is God telling you? What do you feel in your heart?

All I can say is, I Love my Best Friend and my future Hubby Michael. You are my completion and other half. 100%. Muahhhh baby, God Bless you.